- Feb 18, 2016
The very particular space of time after one is certain that a ring exists, but before the proposal happens, was THE WORST WAIT, for me. I was on pins and needles. Any perceived deviation from our norm might potentially be THE TIME. I'll be real with you, I'm not a particularly patient person anyway. But, I tried. It started wearing on me, making me a bit anxious and overly analyzing EVERYthing he did/said.
One night after getting my hopes up and having nothing happen, my partner could tell I was feeling off/upset, and asked what was wrong. I tried to think of a way to explain it so he could understand.
Now, my partner loves cheesecake. LOVES. His absolute favorite treat in the world. So, I told him:
"I know how much you love cheesecake. Imagine I decided that for a very special, once-in-a-lifetime treat, I'm going to give you a super amazing cheesecake. Like, research and figure out who makes it the best, have it mounded high with the most delicious toppings and drizzled with sauce, all your favorite flavors. The perfect cheesecake made just for you. You'll take a bite and cry with happiness, that's how special this cheesecake is. And, guess what...
It's in the fridge! Yes, this fridge in your house. Right now! It is!
But you can't open the fridge.
That's right, you can't open the fridge. I know you know it's in there, all delicious and ready to be eaten. You will love it. When will I let you have some? You'll see! It's going to be so awesome! It's really the best cheesecake you'll ever have eaten in your life! I'm going to figure out just the right way to serve it... eventually! You will love it!
But, don't open the fridge, because you can't have it yet. In fact, I don't want to talk about it anymore, so you're not allowed to say anything about it. Just pretend it isn't there. Don't you want it to be a surprise? Wait patiently, and quietly, until I decide we can eat it. You're not allowed to know when that is."
I told him I wasn't trying to pressure him, I'd do my best to stay patient until he felt the time was right. But that I just wanted him to have a little understanding about what it's like being the person waiting on pins and needles for something amazing...
Him: "Oooo, yeah... that would be terrible!"
Good luck to anyone waiting!